Sunday, April 17, 2011

Day 17 Gratitude: Friendship

 A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away."
- Arabian Proverb

It goes without saying that a good friend is a blessing.  And a truly good friend is all that and more.  Today, Natasha and I went to the "Taste of the Upper Valley" at Hartford High in VT.  Vendors from various farms, creameries, restaurants, etc were there showing off local cuisine, crops and products.  Natasha invited me and I thought it would be fun.  Well, we had a great time, but the event was a disaster.  There were far too many people for the venue, so it was all but impossible to see the vendors.  Lines were going in all directions and it was chaos.  But, Natasha is always fun and is up for fun things.  So, we tasted cheddar curds (loved them!) and brought home a container.... then we went to lunch!
We laughed and joked and gossiped and laughed some more.  Talk about a good time.
I have found that good friends are few and far between, simply because friendship is a relationship.  All relationships are work on the part of both people and close relationships are even more work.  I see a true friend of someone who is "looking out for me" and I for them.  And honestly, I have few friends as those that meet this following criteria:
Friendships are not casual associations but instead intense relationships where both sides benefit from having a confident.
Friends have a tendency to want the best for each other and are willing to put that need above others.
Friends are honest, even when it is difficult and are sympathetic or empathetic when needed.
Friends share a common view on things... not all things, but enough things to give common ground and understanding.  Friendship is trust and support, especially when the same views are not shared, but respected.

And so it is easy to see why good friends are rare.  Being a friend is a lot of work.  And I am grateful for those that I consider to be friends.

1 comment:

piero canuto said...

well written and explained