I come from a large, wonderful family, three sisters, brother, and father. And, I married into another wonderful family. Through the last 30 years, my husband and I have grown and built our lives embracing both families, as well our family's families (their spouses and children) and our own children.
Through this time, families change. People grow and mature and relationships change, some grow closer, some further apart. New family arrives by birth, adoption, marriage, friendship, or discovery. People age and take on different roles within the family, others develop physical conditions that require more assistance than they had in the past. Others pass away, leaving the remaining family with memories, but also at times, pain, hurt, and regrets.
In the best of times, family is a support, a loving refuge from the struggles we all face in the world. Families are united in shared experiences, extreme patience for loved ones, and similar sense of humors. And, family and the roads we travel together, can some times be bumpy, but for those willing to put others first (at least more often than not) it can be wonderful.
Family relationships are all different. I have two daughters and adore them both, but have very different relationships with each one. I believe my father would say the same about each of his children and my siblings would say similar.
Nothing remains the same and included in that, is relationships. And yet, accepting that relationships change, is very challenging for me. And yet, it doesn't stop things from being different, it simply prolongs my acceptance of it, prevents me from embracing who they are at this moment, and in fact, limiting our relationship, current day.
So, this year, in 2020, I am extremely grateful for my entire family and wish to live my life enriching those relationships.